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Planning For Our Baby

Nadiya Najib

Hi guys! I’m excited to be back on the blog after my 2 month Mat-Leave. These two months have been a hell of a ride. The best part of it all has been this bundle of joy with us now. More on that later. In this article, I would be sharing how we planned for our baby.

The Baby Plan

I created an excel file with the following sheets:

I will be discussing the following here:

Baby Names

In around my 5th month of pregnancy, I started my hunt for a baby name. I searched on the internet for names with good meanings and their origins. Name search wasn’t very easy as we had to find a name with:

Moreover, I like names which are:

Following is a great resource for Muslim girl names by Islamic Relief:

MuslimGirlsNamesFINALDownload

Following is the list which I created with all my shortlisted and finalist names. I was honestly very apprehensive about sharing this list as its close to my heart and I may need it in the future. But still, I am sharing it below with my followers:

Nadiya-Najibs-Baby-name-listDownload

Shopping

All the gifts Nyra received at my surprise baby shower by our friends

Shopping was a huge huge MARHALA (process) which required a lot of research and discussions. This has probably been one of the hardest parts of planning a baby. There are endless options and products for babies these days and this whole process can be overwhelming when you’re a minimalist and also trying to spend less.

Stores

We got all our stuff from the following stores:

What we bought

While searching for baby stuff, I wanted to only buy things which are absolutely needed and that are the most reasonable options available. I’m becoming minimalistic and have never believed in wastage. So in order to achieve both my objectives, I did detailed research with the help of my sister.

Highly recommended products

Following are the products which I absolutely recommend.

Evenflo car seat & stroller : Its basically a jogger. So you can run and take baby on trails on this. Easy to maneuver.

Video monitor – This product made our life so much easier. Got her used to sleeping in her bed alone because of this. You can see the baby even in the dark, hear the baby and talk to the baby. Makes it very easy to train the baby to sleep alone so you can carry on with your life.

Bedside mini-fridge: Before I bought this, I had to run to the kitchen so many times each night so her formula milk doesn’t go bad. Now it’s so easy to feed her as this cute little fridge is right next to my bed.

Bubos Bottle warmer : It comes with a baby food warming insert. Does its job well. Very conveniently placed next to the mini-fridge.

7th Gen Baby wipes: Paraben & scent-free.

Pampers Baby Dry: Tried many different types but this is the only one that doesn’t leak. LIFESAVER

Baby formula 3+ months: We switched to this powdered formula in her 3rd month after a lot of recommendations. It’s only available at Costco. Life became so much easier. She started having less throw/spit-ups and far less poop explosions and she loves it.

Avent Sterilizer: Very easy to sterilize babys bottles, pacifiers, spoons etc

Diaper Genie – Doesn’t make your room stink. It’s a must-have.

Baby tub: From newborn to toddler.

Baby Bottles: These anti-colic & leak protection bottles give you so much relief. You don’t have to worry about burping your baby much as these are designed to reduce all gas issues in babies. I wish we bought these earlier. All other bottles leaked like crazy.

Jolly jumper for car seat (cold weather): This is a necessary item for babies in cold areas. This covering protects the baby from wind, rain and the cold. It’s good from age 0 – 4 months approx.

Jolly Jumper weathershield (covers stroller in cold weather): With this product, babies don’t feel cold when they’re on a walk outside. Protects from snow, wind and rain.

Baby spoons: These are a great buy for introducing solids to baby. Works 3+ months. Its soft ends are comfortable for baby gums.

Baby teether: Great for baby gums. I started using it at 5 months.

Baby clothes washing powder: I keep a small container with this in the bathroom. After her bath, I add a bit of this powder in her bathtub (reuse the baby tub water) and soak all her dirty clothes in there. After 15 mins (or whenever I have time), I wash them wearing my rubber gloves, with minimum effort as it cleans really well.

Baby stain remover spray: This is great for cleaning up baby spit-ups from sofas etc.

Hairbands for baby girls: Absolutely love these hairbands from Amazon. She looks like a little dolly with these.

Digital Indoor Thermometer: I learned from experience that a room thermometer is vital for babys room. This is because a baby doesn’t sleep properly if the room is too hot or too cold for them. This will tell you temperature along with humidity meters so you know if its too dry or too wet.

Suction Bowls for self feeders:
After Nyra threw her food off her high chair many times, I had to buy these as they’re harder to throw off.

Noise machine: This is a must-have if you still want a life after your baby is asleep. So so useful and great for your party time in the house once baby is asleep.

Playmat foam: Once your baby starts to stand up and make their way around, they fall a lot. So these are really helpful as they don’t hurt themselves when they fall on this mat. Babies also love to play on its puzzle & chew on them.

Other products we bought

Baby wardrobe

We hardly had to buy any clothes/shoes for her as we were gifted almost all of them. Some were brand new clothes gifted, others were hand-me-downs from our family, friends, cousins or neighbors. We’re so lucky to be sent so many pre-loved clothes and shoes.

Following is a post I did on her clothes:

Facebook Marketplace

We bought the following stuff from Facebook Marketplace as I believe in recycling products. :

Ali Express

We ordered all small stuff from there for 1/10th of the price) like:

Baby Registry

I was new to this concept here. All major baby stores in North America have an option for baby registry where expecting parents can register to get free samples, shopping coupons and extended return/exchange period. It’s definitely helpful to register. We got ours at BabiesRUs.

Family gift calculations

We are very lucky to have an extremely generous family. When they heard the news of my pregnancy, they stepped up and offered to either buy certain main baby products or they gave us a budget to get baby stuff from them. This has been a major help for us. We have hardly had to spend from our own pocket as gifts from family accumulated to so much. Since all our family is scattered across the globe, I wrote our exact hisab kitab (calculations) in the excel sheet too.

Some exceptional gifts were:

Hospital Bag

I did some research on this part and read some articles. Found a good resource below:

Baby-center-hospital_checklistDownload

After getting guidance from books, articles and family, I created my own hospital list in this sheet which I’m sharing below:

Nadiya-Najibs-Hospital-Bag-ListDownload

Things to do before the baby

The arrival of a baby in a family/home is such a huge milestone that I think its very important to have a To-Do list so you know all that you need to complete before it.

Duas

It is said that when a woman is nearing her delivery time, her call to Allah is very powerful. This is a time when most of her prayers are answered. Due to this, a lot of people ask you to say dua for you when your time is near. So I decided to create this sheet so I could list down names of people whom I wanted to pray for and the reasons also.

I also wrote a list of Surrahs that I wanted to complete before my delivery time:

Diaper Bag

Lullabies & Loris

After having Nyra, I soon realized that she feels better when I sing loris and lullabies to her. I started singing them to her every night. Soon I realized it would be so much easier if I could record them and play to her whenever I wanted.

Soon my niece Anya flew here and I saw her singing to Nyra and that would soothe her instantly. I asked Anya if she could record some songs for me. We recorded the following songs and Nyra absolutely loves them. Sharing them here as I got many requests from my followers for them.

Nyras Bedtime songs & lori's by Nadiya Najib

It was funny how I sneezed twice while recording Speechless and Anya laughs while singing.

I also play the following lori’s if she’s really not sleeping.

Setting up Baby Room

Since our guest room wasn’t free, throughout pregnancy, when we purchased baby stuff, we just put it all in the store. We unboxed all the stuff in my 9th month at the very end. I had a really fun time setting up baby’s room.

Incomplete photo wall in her room

Here is the Instagram post on baby room wall.

Baby photo corner

Babies grow up very fast. We’re too overwhelmed at the start of their life but we really need to document these precious moments. I suggest creating a photo corner even before they arrive. The best way is to find a corner where you get really good natural light. Then put some pretty looking extra blankets which will serve the purpose of a backdrop. You may also add some cute toys and month/week banners.

Helpful Apps

Baby Announcement bags

In our desi culture, distributing mithai (sweets) after a baby is born is the norm. But we honestly don’t enjoy mithai much so we decided to do something different yet simple. So we decided on chocolates.

I really wanted to prepare baby announcement bags in my 9th month of pregnancy as I knew we would have guests over to see the baby. I kept these bags really simple and to-the-point. I bought some gift bags, cards and Lindtt chocolates. I printed Nyras birth details (after she was born) and stuck them in each card. These were kept next to the door so I could simply hand one over to every family who came over to visit Nyra. I did a quick research on my favorite source for inspiration Pinterest before finalizing the words. I’m sharing these with you so you can get inspired to make your bags.

Surprise baby shower

Following is all about it in case you’re interested:

Surprise Baby Shower

Conclusion

Overall it was a pleasure planning for the baby. I believe in enjoying the journey towards the destination too. I would love to hear how you planned for your baby and what steps you took.

Acknowledgements

A huge thank you to my mom who helped me with every step of looking after the baby. She taught me everything about babies and how to look after them. From bathing to dressing them up, and protecting them in every way.

Haaris and I were completely clueless about shopping. Nothing would have been possible without the help and support of my sister Nataliya at every step of the process. She’s the one who helped me with each and every product for baby shopping. Other than her, my best friend Asma, my local friend Yusra and some followers have also helped narrow down products.

A big thank you to our lovely friends who gave us a thumping surprise baby shower and got us all the things we needed. If you missed that blog post, here it is.

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